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Dale McConnaughay's avatar

As a fellow contrarian, I like to know why a person, and especially groups of people -- the larger the better -- think the way they do. So I often posit a contrary response, one maybe contrary to my own point of view, just to engage in civil discourse and extract from them a deeper understanding of how they reached their conclusions.

Where I have been convinced by their response, or at least moved in their direction, it is usually because it is fact-based, and has been fact-checked. Who doesn't appreciate hearing and thus learning something new?

Where I have not been so moved to change my mind or position is where it is fact-free, built upon erroneously cited or misconstrued "fact."

People can also have very powerful, even life-changing, personal experiences that can't help but change their views. One can understand, even sympatize with that, but It does not necessarily change or even alter larger truths, except for them.

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Chuck L's avatar

What I learned very early in life is that it’s nearly impossible to change minds on a controversial issue unless you understand their side of the discussion as well as they do. It’s often disarming to them that you can actually speak and understand their language, and that then seems to invariably open them up to be more willing to actually listen to and discuss counter arguments. Assuming, of course, that the discussion is based on true curiosity from both parties and mutual respect in the first place, versus the typical discourse you find online.

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