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JMan 2819's avatar

The most important thing to realize about Northern Europe is that despite low rates of marriage, they are an extremely monogamous culture. Andrew Cherlin points out in The Marriage Go-Round that unmarried couples in Sweden are less likely to separate then married couples in the USA.

Male loneliness is all downstream of promiscuity. Even if you aren't particularly red-pilled (in the OG sexual reality sense), here is the dating market:

* 22 year old men (either blue collar or post-college): women who are 22 or perhaps a bit younger

* 22 year old women: men who are 32ish and younger

But it changes when you hit 30:

* 30 year old men: women in their 20s

* 30 year old women: men in their 30s who haven't yet married

When I was in my younger 20s I was largely invisible to women because I'm not a bubbly extrovert. But as my 30s approached women started making themselves available, and oftentimes chased me. I think for women, more than merely "hitting the wall" at age 30, is the reality that the good men are rapidly marrying out of the dating market. Most women don't want to be the last one standing when the music stops and the good men are all married.

The upshot is that young men spend their 20s drifting. Hookup culture, pot, video games, anime. They don't have a family to work for, so unless they're unusually driven, their career is not important. They have no purpose, no mission. High school friends have a way of scattering, but even if they stay close, hanging out with friends drinking beer and playing video games does not satisfy the longing for love and connection. I personally spent much of my 20s as a snowboard bum, and then at some point in my late 20s, a little alarm went off and I moved back to the East coast and got my first full-time job. I was married a couple years after that.

Edit: This was perhaps the largest part of Charlie Kirk's ministry to college students. You get out of life what you put into it, and young men who start living with purpose and break free of hookup culture, drugs, or porn can move their life in their 20s to a very different track.

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Norm Fox's avatar

In my experience government always winds up exacerbating every social ill it attempts to solve. The only worthwhile policy I see here is controlling crime and disorder which is a core government function. Beyond that I’d recommend:

Focusing like a laser on promoting economic growth and a hot economy.

Getting K-12 education back to basics. I.e. Stop trying to implement the latest Ed school fad and focus on reading, writing & arithmetic in primary schools. Bring back vocational education in junior high and high schools so kids who aren’t going to college graduate with marketable skill sets.

Beyond that this is about culture. Government should stay out of it, because government trying to affect culture is probably what got us here in the first place.

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